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LocationOakland
Call NoSELF-HELP PERSONAL GROWTH
TitleAre you mad at me? : how to stop focusing on what others think and start living for you / Meg Josephson, LCSW.
AuthorJosephson, Meg, author.
Barcode47660111113110
CollectionNF Self-Help
Summary"Are you... Constantly worried about what people think of you, if they like you, if they're mad at you? Anxious, a perfectionist, or an overachiever? Always overextending yourself (and then resentful)? Someone who avoids conflict at all costs? Fearful of getting into trouble or being seen as "bad" Silencing your needs for the comfort and happiness of everyone else? Prone to overexplain or over apologize? Eternally obsessing over why someone texted with a period instead of an exclamation point? Psychotherapist Meg Josephson is here to show you that people-pleasing is not a personality trait. It's a common survival mechanism known as "fawning": an instinct often learned in childhood to become more appealing to a perceived threat in order to feel safe. Yet many people are stuck in this way of being for their whole lives. Are You Mad at Me? weaves Josephson's own moving story with that of fascinating client stories and thought-provoking exercises to show you how to: Identify all the roles you might play -- from peacekeeper to performer to caretaker to lone wolf to perfectionist to chameleon -- that keep you far from yourself; stop fearing your thoughts and emotions, even if they're unpleasant; rethink conflict and boundaries as an opening for deeper connection; practice "leaning back" in relationships; recognize when people-pleasing is actually necessary (with your chaotic boss) and when it's not (with your close friends) and stop self-loathing when you slip into old patterns; and shift away from the familiar chaos, anxiety, and resentment you're used to as you move closer to yourself and a life that no longer depletes you -- but brings you joy." -- Provided by publisher.
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Catalog Details

International Standard Book Number 9781668082461
International Standard Book Number 1668082462
Personal Name Josephson, Meg, author.
Title Statement Are you mad at me? : how to stop focusing on what others think and start living for you / Meg Josephson, LCSW.
Production, Publication, Distribution, Manufacture, and Copyright Notice New York : Gallery Books, an imprint of Simon & Schuster LLC, 2025.
Physical Description viii, 294 p. Hardcover 24 cm.
Bibliography, Etc. Note Includes bibliographical references.
Formatted Contents Note Author's note -- Introduction -- The other f-word -- Now & then -- Permission to heal -- You are not your thoughts -- Emotions aren't the problem -- This is exhausting -- Nothing is personal -- Conflict is like death (it's inevitable) -- Rebranding boundaries -- Who are you? (yes, you) -- Healing is an act of service -- Acknowledgements -- Notes.
Summary, Etc. "Are you... Constantly worried about what people think of you, if they like you, if they're mad at you? Anxious, a perfectionist, or an overachiever? Always overextending yourself (and then resentful)? Someone who avoids conflict at all costs? Fearful of getting into trouble or being seen as "bad" Silencing your needs for the comfort and happiness of everyone else? Prone to overexplain or over apologize? Eternally obsessing over why someone texted with a period instead of an exclamation point? Psychotherapist Meg Josephson is here to show you that people-pleasing is not a personality trait. It's a common survival mechanism known as "fawning": an instinct often learned in childhood to become more appealing to a perceived threat in order to feel safe. Yet many people are stuck in this way of being for their whole lives. Are You Mad at Me? weaves Josephson's own moving story with that of fascinating client stories and thought-provoking exercises to show you how to: Identify all the roles you might play -- from peacekeeper to performer to caretaker to lone wolf to perfectionist to chameleon -- that keep you far from yourself; stop fearing your thoughts and emotions, even if they're unpleasant; rethink conflict and boundaries as an opening for deeper connection; practice "leaning back" in relationships; recognize when people-pleasing is actually necessary (with your chaotic boss) and when it's not (with your close friends) and stop self-loathing when you slip into old patterns; and shift away from the familiar chaos, anxiety, and resentment you're used to as you move closer to yourself and a life that no longer depletes you -- but brings you joy." -- Provided by publisher.
Subject Added Entry - Topical Term Conduct of life.
Subject Added Entry - Topical Term Behavior modification.
Subject Added Entry - Topical Term Self-acceptance.
Subject Added Entry - Topical Term Adjustment (Psychology)
Index Term-Genre/Form Self-help publications. lcgft.